5 minutes more
well it has been work work work as we moved offices (june 2004) and I worked over weekends and non stop to make sure everyone was happy and all worked well.
At the end of it i was left feeling very overtired and had a short tempered weekend with my children, where everyone was left at the end feeling they never wanted to see each other again.
My ex-wife rang me to say my daughter never wanted to come and stay again because I had made her leave early from the school fete…a lesson there in communication for me…always be staright forward and honest with your children and respect their intelligence. I should have said…I am bored, and we have been here along time and there is not alot for adults, so I think its time we went….but I didn’t.
My experience is that where we lack congruence we are often on a path to conflict…by congruence I mean that what we feel and think on the inside is refelcted by our outward acts and expression and of course a level of what is appropriate.
Anyway never fear they both came round for tea on the wednesday and I was going to have a bar-b-q but theweather was awful, so I let them make their own kebabs on bamboo skewers and they loved it….so everyone decided that it wasn’t so bad at Dads house after all.
Being with children can be such a joy even in the difficult moments, even when you have a child who is challenged. I am trying to remember this and to get more sleep and be more patient and let things flow…I mean even though I was bored, it wouldn’t really have hurt to stay at the school fete 5 minutes more!
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