Fear and loathing in the new sexual arena and a spot of herpes

To some extent being over 40, seperated and in a decent job has its advantages. I have a confidence that was certainly lacking in younger years, however, it is very much like being a teenager all over again and where as a teenager I was blind to the many pitfalls facing me in the relationship and sexual arena now I am all too aware.

It is a new sexual arena, because expectations are different both of oneself and of any prospective partners, often morality seems very different, and I use the word morality in a very broad way.

This new arena,where to some extent confidence and expensive underwear abounds, is also one where secret fears , loss of confidence and sexual disease overflows. Where one comes across people dealing with the aftermath of younger sexual indiscretion, and here I do not mean children, though this can be so.

The future for someone with herpes say is a difficult one…it has to be explained and the leper factor removed, but not something I would like to deal with. Lifestyle and prefernces I have found sometimes easy and sometimes difficult to put over, in the Uk many are frightened by the idea of someone of faith and then to have to explain what it means to be a Quaker, has certainly kept me focussed.

But the main area and the one that sparked this article, after personal experience and reading an article on Elise Bauer’s site is about erectile dysfunction. The advent of viagra and Ciallis has changed much of this but the underlying reasons for it have not disappeared. Men lead a more stressful life, they eat more processed foods, the internet (in the majority a male domain) is filled with pictures of perfect men and women having easy active and instantly aroused sex. And it doesn’t matter how many times you tell yourself, its part of a fantasy or its demeaning, I know men and women both compare themselves negatively.

The new world of relationships that splits family and leaves us with a new world order, also has other effects, on sex and relationships, healing, loving, disease, morality, hedonism and self belief.

So what ever it is you want from yourself or another, try and be happy with who you are and what you have right here right now, before you drive on to fear and loathing in ….

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