Ever since I seperated and got divorced i find I am emotionally and psychologically off balance. As any one who works knows colleagues can often not be the best of communicators, but I only have to get a phone call from a director and I think everything has gone wrong.

I need much more affirmation and pats on the back than I used to, my self confidence in many areas is fine but just at other times I need some confirmation.

An example would be on saturday having picked up message on my cell/mobile phone from my boss….

I then proceeded to write all my Christmas cards and post them with no stamps on..urgh…so i redid them with stamps, having re centred myself; but I noticed just how easy it was to knock my sense of self. I am not sure where I went when the stamps were meant to be stuck, but where ever it was I was hiding from that innocuous phone call.

I notice this kind of thing more and more, for example if my girlfriend and I have a squabble then I think its all over, my sense of situation where my emotional well being is important moves to extremes very quickly, and I present myself with an “always or never scenario”.

However mostly everything is really alright.

I think my extreme reaction to certain situations are a direct result of my perceptions of relationship. When you are in a relationship for a long period and you think the relation ship looks and works a certain way, you base a lot of your judgements on this. When this is proved as in my case and perhaps many others, both men and women..that it is not the case this makes you doubt your own judgement. Your judgement is lacking your perceptions are skewed and you get hurt, so you move to a very protective place, or base many of your judgements on this extreme situation (relationship breakdown).

Its what i do, and its not very helpful but its hard to break out of, I thought I was a good judge of people and situations, this has proved not to be the case, so how do i know if my boss or my girlfriend means hey thats not so good or really means you are on the way out?

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