Depression and sadness

I wonder if the increase in depression in western society and culture is down to one thing, the inability of people to accept their own or others sadness. My own experience is one of wanting to fix my own sadness or depression, or that others see that sadness as somehow centring on them. My other experience is one of non-acceptance, either the stop moaning variety or the desire to restrict expressions of sadness or depression unless its on their terms.

I get a lot of people searching the net that come to jonathanspencer.net, and the thing they are searching for is help with depression.

Now i can’t claim to be a great help here, except to say i suffer from having what I call sadness. I try most of the time to be constructive and centred and balanced and aware, but sometimes, right now, there are reasons to be sad. And they don’t need fixing or sorting, or jollying, and i don’t want to be told to shut up or that yes its Ok but only if I say it like this.

Sometimes my sadness is about anger, sometimes its about tiredness, sometimes its about boredom and tedium, then again it can be about loss. It also creeps up on me for no reason at all and I am unsure why i feel sad and I think this is the point where it would be good to have some support, that support is not to fix it, or to judge it, just to say, yep I see thats where you are, if you need anything, I am here….its rare.

We are afraid of our sadness, I know I can be of mine, and others don’t like it because naturally it resonates with their own, especially where that sadness has never been expressed.

There are a 1001 ways to help yourself and self help books and tapes to support, good counsel is also worthwhile. However in the end recognition and acceptance is a first step, a second step is realising that this thing is yours own it so it does not own you. I have sadness from time to time, but it does not have me, I am not sad, I have sadness, the sadness is mine, this recognition and ownership is a great step to seeing any part of yourself as just that…a part or a facet…not the whole.

If with full awareness i can see that all my actions have value and I make themn through unconscious and conscious choice, there must be a reason for me to be sad, a valuable reason, and sometimes i realise there are energies and powers working through me, that seem to know whats best…so I made a choice to go with it and tomorrow i may just choose the sound of sleigh bells, because when you realise you can choose anything, thats when you really have a choice.

Related posts:

Related posts:

1. Depression – Its OK to be sad.
2. Another view of healing
3. Critical Flaws or Projection
4. Other peoples opinion – of You!
5. Consideration, awareness and waking up

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