The Two

Its something about the duality of life and the dating game, because having been thrown back into the dating game at 42/3, oh all right I am 43….I realise why I am seperated and why there are so many single women out there wondering why they have nothing to do on a saturday night.

Firstly men (thats me) do not understand what women want, what they really find attractive or sexy, and can be very petulant (thats me again) when things dont go right…

Of the women I have met, talked to, even dated… some have a very odd idea of what a date might consist of (sitting talking inane rubbish with people you dont know, in a bar you don’t want to be in! ) oh yes and the truth economics (see below…but as an example,  you see a picture with a lovely face, they turn up with that face but wearing a tent) and often if they are in their late 30s or early 40s and never been married or had kids, they are so used to concentrating only on themselves that the compromise of being with a partner is, I think, too difficult.

Of course, I have my own problems, and years of therapy and being a therapist hasnt helped.  It has made me aware of my own idiosyncrasies, but I still havent learnt to go with my own judgement as quickly as I would like, I mean generally I know within a few seconds to a few minutes whether it might work and whether there is any chemistry, and then of course I can get all the signals wrong…ouch!  Of course you can go down the chemistry road in a big way and get it all wrong as many teenage single mums will tell you, but its a decent guideline.  I am also moody, did I say moody, I meant tall dark and handsome….which any women will tell you they dont like…along with the i dont do sad  which always freaks me out, I mean there is something seriously wrong with someone that just never does sad (deniial !?)  Anyway back to the moody, youd be moody, if you  had just been dragged along to see a depressed friend.

However as my dad taught me and I have spoken about here before, it helps if you can laugh at yourself.

After all this I have met some lovely people, struck up a relationship (or two) and made a friend (or two)

I need some more lessons from an american (or two)…(thats enough twos ..ed.) on dating and going with the flow.

Oh yes in this stream of consciousness writing I had forgotten the other thing, internet dating, now so popullar and almost an internet community in its own right, is very confusing…why?  Because people lie, they lie about who they are, what they do, where they live, and what they may or may not look like.  Even with a photo this is still possible, often its a sin of ommission, but what the hell.

I guess in the end we all have our problems, and want someone that will accept us for our faults and weaknesses as well as our wit and wonder,  in the words of the Matrix, everyone is looking for the one, well I wish you luck…me I have decided to look for the two, I know you are out there…
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