Separation and Divorce
A thought last new year
I wrote this an email to a friend and wanted to share with you
The People thing, I realise that many at our age are hurt by relationships, especially by separation and divorce, and life and this makes us a bit reticent a la one of the verses in Oriah Mountain Dreamers…The invitation…..
We hold back, think its got to all be mature and serious and look for someone to fill a space left by lost partners children and so on…
What I have learnt is that you are still sexy, can step out, be free more open minded, take risks,(but not if they effect health HIV etc) its OK to have a short term relationship, if you both know what you are up to and are consenting adult after all, sex is good for you, as is cuddling kissing and so on on.
I don’t just mean if it moves screw it I think its deeper than that about not pretending and stop lying, and worrying…
I am heavily influence by the American author Louise Hay and I love it on Louise Hays CD that I have when she says she loves us all and sends her love, perhaps one way is to be sure and love and look after yourself
For example I am not a great lover of New Year, never liked it, always preferred Christmas, so in the past at New year I stayed in decided to chill out, relax enjoy time with myself and went to bed early, next day I felt greeeaat!! I saw New Years day from a totally new and positive angle.
Yet we all have alot of love to give, perhaps being hurt or wounded is just part of it, yin and yang. So if you are one of those ‘men and divorce’ people don’t be afraid of thinking back to when you were younger and like a lot of people looking for something permanent, “the one” whoever that may be, meantime who knows…
Never let go of your dreams and believe in yourself, because this relation ship hasn’t worked out or ended in separation and divorce doesn’t mean you are not good at relationships or can’t build or create a new one, that brings love and satisfaction
Never give up.
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